We should admit that changing is inevitable, when we face changes for the first time in our lives, those we are not familiar with, as first. Resisting the change or completely resigning on it has no help. If it is going to happen, it will; but it is important how we manage this process of change. We know that emotionally resilient people get over this process much easier than the others. When we look for these people’s common characteristics, we will see that they have strong communication skills and possess a high level of self-awareness.

First step of increasing emotional resilience is accepting the reality. Then we should come up with solutions without panic. Because panic makes us fail. On the other hand, optimism -by itself- has no help either, as proven by historical events. For example, Jim Stokdale, who was kept prisoner in prison camp of Vietkong for 8 years was asked “Who could not make it out of the camp?” and his answer was “The optimists”, “Because they believed that they were going to be rescued in Christmas. When it turned out that this was not going to happen, they believed they would be released in Easter, then July 4^th, finally Thanksgiving, thought as the time they would turn back to the ones they loved. As each Christmas left behind, they suffered despair, grief and disappointment, ending up dead. Being realistic, and making plans with alternatives to struggle this fact is necessary. With understanding that nothing in our lives happen by coincidence and realizing that problems we face have some meaning in our lives as well, makes us stronger.

Emotionally resilient people do not sink into despair in tough situations or complain about it. They are always in search of finding a meaning from the challenges, come up with solutions with alternatives, consider the negations as opportunites that contribute in personal development. By doing so, they feel their improvement against the negations in life each time solving a problem.